Poem: Betrayal

Wednesday, September 20th, 2017 02:47 pm
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Acrostic poem for the [community profile] dailyprompt prompt “betrayal”

Be disloyal
Enact treachery
Take your word and
Renege on it
Act duplicitous but
You should know this is
A sin I cannot forgive
Loyalty is priceless
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 I am up after sleeping a few hours for the second night in a row. I don't think it's a matter of me not getting enough sleep. I think it's just a matter of my sleep patterns being interrupted, and I can only blame myself for this. I shouldn't have gotten so caught up in the Fallout storylines, and shouldn't have thought about the way they treat the non-feral ghouls as being a statement for racism, or my live for K-L-E-0 being an anti-trans joke that backfired on the developers. (But don't worry, she only tests the weapons she sells on people that deserve it.)  It would be nice if there were more of an option for a more pacifist run, which you *can* do in Fallout New Vegas.  

In any case, I hope I can get back to sleep tonight. I've avoided playing video games tonight to try to reset my system clock, but it's not that easy. It might be easier if I were not know in front of my computer. But it seems that once again, I'm seeing the Trump administration and its continued failures at being compassionate human beings. I suppose the latest problem is the administration trying to end DACA. I just don't see the point of punishing the children for the actions -- or crimes if you want -- of the parents. The children had no choice. It's like punishing humanity forever or at least for thousands because two people ate an apple they weren't supposed to.  It's tempting to blame this on Mike Pence's influence, but I don't believe even Mike Pence is that terrible of a person. His boss, on the other hand, is definitely as bad as he seems to be.

I am getting back in the swing of things, but I have to admit I didn't do as well on a routers and switching test tonight as I would have liked. It's true I'm not interested in computer networking, but it does have some relevance for a server administrator. I think one of the classes should be replaced with C for people on the Linux path, since knowing more Cisco IOS commands isn't all that useful.  (Not Apple iOS. They are completely different things. Cisco IOS came about first.)  Laying cables will have to be a task left to someone else. I also dislike that these courses are only offered at night so I can't ride the city bus back home even if I wanted to.

Now, well, to the person worried that it's a video card problem on their Mac -- it's actually possible, but I wouldn't start with fixing that option.  But if the air duster doesn't work, it'd probably be a good idea to take it to an Apple store. It could be a problem with the power supply  or the cpu fan. 

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The GOP is trying to repeal the ACA and cut Medicaid again. They almost have the votes to do it. We have the chance to stop them from getting the votes, if we act *right now*. We need to put overwhelming pressure on every senator to vote no.

Their current attempt to take away our health care is called “Graham-Cassidy”. It’s important to tell our elected officials to vote *against* Graham-Cassidy. The Autistic Self Advocacy Network has more information about what’s going on, and how to contact your representatives. This is the script they suggest using for phone calls and emails (They also have suggestions for what to do if you can’t make calls):

My name is [your name], and I live in [your town]. I’m [calling/writing] to ask Senator [Name] to vote NO on the Graham-Cassidy bill, or any other bills that would repeal the Affordable Care Act, cut Medicaid funding and leave millions of people with no health insurance. The people of [your state] are still watching, and our health care is just as important to us now as it was in July. We’re counting on you to do the right thing and save our health care. Please vote NO on Graham-Cassidy.

It’s also worth contacting your state governor. They can’t vote on the bill, but they *can* put pressure on senators to vote against it. Senators sometimes listen to governors about what’s right for their state. You can find your state governor’s contact information here.

Done last week (20170911Mo - 16Sa)

Sunday, September 17th, 2017 07:56 pm
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Rough week. Especially yesterday, when N and I took a very sick Bronx to the emergency vet in Seattle. He had a fever of 106; apparently I can't tell at all from his nose and ears. He was also throwing up and not eating, and wasn't anywhere near his usual rambunctious self.

Note: apparently a virus. He's recovering well, and we'll be taking him home tomorrow.

The house seems very quiet and lonely without our Bronx boy. Brooklyn and even Ticia are rambuncting as best they can, but it isn't the same. Meanwhile, apparently cats really are liquids. Or should I say that cat is a liquid?

Thursday, one of our neighbor's cows got loose in our yard. One of those things that's very funny in retrospect. We've also been having a hard time finding a caregiver for Colleen.

As I said, rough week.

Two public service announcements:

  1. Breach at Equifax May Impact 143M Americans; How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Embrace the Security Freeze
  2. If you happen to be on Whidbey Island next Sunday (the 24th, a week from today), drop by our house for music and food. "The usual potluck bash", as we used to say of the Starport.

I'm trying to establish a schedule, so that I actually get things done, have some time for Colleen, and don't spend all my spare time online. 9-11 on Tuesdays and Thursdays are earmarked for "Unpleasant Chores" - unpacking, cleaning litter boxes, finishing up the taxes, taking out the garbage, and so on. Tag "UC:"

Notes & links, as usual )

You can't fight stigma by making disability unspeakable

Saturday, September 16th, 2017 12:00 pm
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I’ve noticed that a lot of well-meaning people try to fight disability stigma by making disability unspeakable.

The logic seems to be like this:

  • They notice that when people are seen as disabled, they are respected less. 
  • They call this stigma, and think of stigma as a very bad problem. 
  • They then try to figure out how to make stigma go away so that people will be respected more.
  • They think that if no one was seen as disabled, there would be no stigma.
  • They try to get people to pretend that disability doesn’t exist.
  • They expect this to somehow improve the lives of people with disabilities. (On the grounds that if everyone ignores disability, there will be no disability stigma.)

This approach doesn’t work. Disability exists, whether or not anyone is willing to acknowledge it. When we try to fight stigma by ignoring disability, we send the message that disability is unacceptable.

When people are made to pretend that their disability does not exist, they learn that basic things about their body are unspeakable. When people are made to pretend someone else’s disability doesn’t exist, they learn that if they stopped ignoring basic things about them, it would be impossible to keep respecting them. These are not good lessons.

If you need to pretend someone isn’t disabled in order to respect them, you’re not really respecting them. You’re giving imaginary respect to an imaginary nondisabled person. People with disabilities deserve better. People with disabilities don’t need fake respect handed out as a consolation prize. People with disabilities need to be treated with real respect, as the people they really are.

If we want to fight stigma, we have to get real. Disability exists, and pretending that it doesn’t just makes the problem worse. Stigma is not caused by noticing disability; stigma is caused by ableist attitudes towards disability. It is ok to be disabled, it is not ok to be ableist, and it is upon all of us to build a culture that understands that.

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I don’t get why people think they can catch you out on something like

“You said you couldn’t do X, but then you did Y!”

Like, one of the main things disabled people are trying to explain to the abled world is that our experiences are nuanced. We can do some things and not other things. We can do some things some of the time but not all of the time. Sometimes our abilities change over time. Sometimes we have the same diagnosis as someone else but not the same abilities and limitations. Sometimes we were misdiagnosed and we get correctly diagnosed later on in life. None of this is contradictory, none of this should be controversial to talk about.

Trying to call someone fake because they don’t fit a stereotype and don’t stay exactly the same their whole lives is antithetical to what disability activism is striving for, and it holds disabled people to a much higher standard than abled people to have our lives “make sense” to people who are biased and willfully uninformed.

Abled people are allowed to grow and change without it calling into question their entire life history.

Basically, being a disabled person speaking about disability in a public space means getting constantly subjected to “last year you said you were thirty, this year you said you were thirty-one, WHICH IS IT OBAMA?” type scrutiny. This is garden variety ableism, it’s not new, it’s not original, and it’s not any different when people think they’re harassing fakers for the good of “REAL” disabled people.

If people weren’t so suspicious of disabled people categorically they might actually learn something about disability.

All this does is make disabled people afraid to speak at all. After all, what if they see themselves in the latest victim of the faker hunt? Doesn’t that mean if they don’t talk about their disability very carefully- try very hard not to upset anyone’s preconceived notions of what their disability “should” look like- that they’ll be next? And when we have fewer voices in our community, less people sharing information about the nuances of disability, then we lose something important. There is nothing about trying to oust someone as a “faker” that isn’t toxic for disabled people as a community.

today's good things are ephemeral and eternal

Tuesday, September 12th, 2017 09:03 pm
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Food, beverages, joys, and difficulties under cut Read more... )

Done last week (20170903Su - 10Su)

Tuesday, September 12th, 2017 07:13 pm
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Somewhat eventful week, and I see that I didn't get it posted yesterday. Grumph. And today is a busy one, so this will be worked on only in the interstices.

This was our first week of school for both of N's kids, and in particular of homeschooling for j. N and I are taking turns, with N on Tuesday and Thursday, and me on Monday and Wednesday (when C has a caregiver in, although it's a little more hectic right now because we're between caregivers). Friday is for catch-up and projects. J also got the first weekly call from his teacher, where we were able to determine that we have a lot more freedom to choose which activities (e.g. science experiments) we actually do. It's still a bit of a scramble.

This weekend (ok, last weekend -- I'm finishing this up on Tuesday at this point) one of our neighbors, Dean, threw a huge party. He apparently does this every year for his birthday. He's 67, and has been building his house and "landscaping" his property since sometime in the '70s. It's awesome. "Landscaping" in quotes because landscaping doesn't normally include secret tunnels, grottos, and water slides. I only found out about it because I was standing behind him in line at the grocery store. Fairly large amount of music. He's a fiddler! We have a lot of songs that could use fiddle. He also repairs pianos.

The hash I made of "Wheelin'" on Saturday afternoon prompted me to finally reprint the LgF songbook -- two-sided, using my new style definitions. Worked great. There are still a few glitches, but on the whole it's a big improvement.

I made fudgies for the party. Recipe in the notes.

We hired a new caregiver for Colleen. As soon as we saw her purple hair we knew she was going to be a good fit. She'll start on the 25th, after giving two weeks' notice at her previous job.

Notes & links, as usual )

Poem: Winter's Kiss

Tuesday, September 12th, 2017 09:27 am
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Title: Winter's Kiss
Prompt: Winter
Type: Terza Rima
Warnings: a mild threat of sexual assault but in a non-explicit way often found in folk songs - and ultimately it is only a threat, for this is no ordinary woman; character death
Read more... )
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Some not-etsy knitting and crochet!

Progress on a rainbow babby blanket. Or, more of a baby playmat and kid blanket I guess, turned out big, hopefully it will last them a while. Finally finished all the machine knitting, now need to crochet borders on all the strips and sew them together so they are not a pile of noodles and look like the finished panel on the left. It’s a double-sided blanket, should be very warm and cozy. 4,872 rows total on the knitting machine to make all the strips for the blanket! Biggest machine knitting project I’ve done so far.

Then a zig-zag crochet scarf for me. Nearly done, just needs some blocking and weaving in the ends.

was this a good idea? maybe not, but...

Sunday, September 10th, 2017 08:57 am
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...it's damned impressive.

Flight crew and ground crew nailed this one, getting a commercial flight into and out of San Juan *between* sections of Hurricane Irma.


Via [personal profile] rushthatspeaks.

still around

Friday, September 8th, 2017 06:10 pm
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Made it to the weekend, even. :)

I am okay, given the circumstances.

Some random shinies:
Homegrown fruit; polygonal interconnecting connecting building toys; play dough and brain putty; kids eating salad; music.

Something I posted on the Disqus forum Lipstick Riot

Friday, September 8th, 2017 03:26 pm
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I'm just going to link to it.  I've seen all the arguments over the past few years. While I don't like taking down confederate statues (I support putting up plaques reminding eveyone that they were put up as a racist statement during the Jim Crowe era), I am even more sick of people who think that their right to free speech resolves them of any responsibility for their actions.

taking control through knowledge

Thursday, September 7th, 2017 08:02 pm
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Today, on the second day of kindergarten, because the kids were worried about the forest fire ... we learned how to look through the pictures in books to find relevant information even if the text is too hard, using books on trees and forests, and using this reading strategy, a student located information about redwoods that can survive fires, which my colleague read aloud to the class.

The fun of dysautonomias

Thursday, September 7th, 2017 07:50 pm
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Me: [Takes fan to bedroom, plugs it in and turns it on]
Roommate: But it's not hot out tonight
Me: So?
Roommate: But it's in the high 40s.
Me: I am  sweating.  I'm not directing the fan towards you.

Also, I've seen some of my notes this year. I've been using a pen and a mechanical pencil designed to have a thicker stock. My writing is much clearer with the thicker pencil. I suppose I canh have an easier time with somethings if I acknowledge there's a disability presence.

offer of emergency hospitality

Thursday, September 7th, 2017 06:59 am
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If you're a friend online, or can provide references for a friend, and need a place to crash for a few nights due to climate catastrophes or similar, I have a (small, not-very-accessible, un-air conditioned, but habitable) apartment with my partner, and a floor and an air mattress. You can PM me.

This offer also applied to catastrophes caused by people in the course of daily life as opposed to climate change.

ETA: I am located in Portland, Oregon.

reading the news

Wednesday, September 6th, 2017 09:39 pm
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U.S. politics, environment under the cut Read more... )


Wednesday, September 6th, 2017 05:21 pm
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Kindergarteners are amazing and make me smile with their beautiful thoughts and spontaneous deep questions.

Hoping for some rain to wash the air down so we can go outside for recess. ;)

Don’t schedule important events on major Jewish holidays

Wednesday, September 6th, 2017 05:42 pm
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A lot of things get scheduled on major Jewish holidays, in a way that prevents Jews from being able to participate. This needs to stop. 

If you’re in charge of scheduling things like:

  • Protests
  • Conferences
  • Public school orientations
  • College orientations
  • Exam schedules
  • Field trips
  • Other important events

Please avoid scheduling on major Jewish holidays. The most important ones to avoid are:

  • Rosh Hashana
  • Yom Kippur
  • The first two nights of Passover 

These holidays are at slightly different times each year, because the Jewish calendar is lunar. Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur are in the fall, Passover is in the Spring. You can check when they are at hebcal.com, and hebcal.com also has a calendar you can subscribe to that says when the holidays are.

Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur are the times at which Jews who don’t go to synagogue at any other time of year go. (In the same way that some Christians only go to church on Easter and Christmas). They are also major family holidays, even for people who are otherwise secular. Yom Kippur is a 25 hour fast (from both food and water) and most people who observe it are pretty wiped out immediately afterwards. 

The first two nights of Passover are when Jewish families hold Passover seders. It’s a major family holiday, even for people who do not consider themselves religious and never go to synagogue at all. Nearly all Jewish families have some sort of seder. 

It is considerate to also avoid scheduling important events that would require travel on the day before and after these major holidays. It is critical to avoid scheduling events on the holidays themselves.

There are other Jewish holidays that will create conflicts for some Jews, but they’re not as important to most Jewish people. 

tl;dr: If you value Jewish participation and solidarity with Jews, it is critically important to avoid scheduling important events on on Rosh Hashana, Yom Kippur, and the first two nights of Passover.

The Hebrew calendar measures days from sunset to sunset, so a single-day holiday will span two dates on the Gregorian (civil/secular) calendar. If the calendar you’re using doesn’t say ‘Yom Kippur begins at sundown,’ check another calendar to verify which Gregorian evening and day will have the holiday observance(s).

That too. Thank you.


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